If we find ourselves in grief (for whatever reason) during the holidays, everything will remind us of our loss. We cannot avoid the holidays…..they come every year whether we want them or not. The thought of a six week holiday can feel absolutely overwhelming and impossible to survive. Yet, it is important to remember that the Holy Day (holiday) is just that….one day. And, we have personal choices as to how we can spend the day, and in fact the days we have left until Christmas. During this third week of Advent, instead of getting caught up in the hectic chaos of our cultural pre-Christmas period, make a personal Advent retreat. Surrender into God for one week all your pain and sorrow and let Our Lord fill you with courage, and hope. Begin the day by proclaiming that “I cast the burden of my grief on Christ and I go free to receive whatever I need for my highest good and healing.” Set time aside during the day to say a quick prayer of release or even take the time to contemplate or meditate. Say a rosary and feel Mary’s mantle cover you in peace and strength. Most of all, be gentle with yourself, and remember: “Whatever you ask for in prayer with faith, you will receive.” Matthew 21:22